Mother’s Day – May 8, 2022 – When it’s Not a Happy Day
What to Do When Mother’s Day isn’t Happy
- Do commercials for Mother’s Day flowers or greeting cards put a knot in your stomach?
- Do Mother’s Day posts on social media make you think, “What’s so happy about it?”
- Do you wish you could ignore the whole week leading up to the holiday?
Although many people view Mother’s Day as a reason to celebrate, it can bring up sad or painful feelings for others.
Many people have issues with their moms, but no matter the reason, no matter if the loss happened recently or many years ago, there is nothing wrong with you. If the idea of Mother’s Day upsets you, please know that your feelings are normal and natural.
Attend a one-hour workshop on How to Cope with Mother’s Day Grief.
Whether your grieving because your mother has died or because you have been hurt or neglected by your mother, you will discover ways to lessen the pain of the day and also learn some self-care practices for yourself.
Wednesday, May 4 – 3:00-4:00 pm EST
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Saturday, May 7 – 10:00 – 11:00 am EST
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Death isn’t the only reason you might be grieving around Mother’s Day, though it certainly is a reason for many people.
- Maybe your mom was abusive or less than loving.
- Maybe she didn’t mother in the way you needed or she did something that upset you later in life.
- Maybe you simply wish things in your relationship were different, better, or more in some way.
Even though your emotions are normal this may be a good time to ask yourself,
“What would life be like if I wasn’t carrying this around with me?”
Is that something you can even imagine or have you been hurt for so long that it’s just a way of life?
Unresolved grief can have a long-term negative impact on your life. Grief is cumulative and cumulatively negative. The more you try to ignore your grief, or push it under the rug, the more it will affect your life. Grief not only affects current and future personal relationships, but it can also impact your work, health, and even things you used to enjoy doing. The intensity of your feelings may lessen over time, but grief doesn’t heal on its own.
Here are some signs you might be grieving:
- Do you refuse to talk about your mother or do you only talk about her negative qualities?
- Are you preoccupied with anger, sad or painful memories about her?
- Do you avoid places that remind you of her?
- Do you put her on a pedestal?
- Do you avoid places or events that remind you of her?
- Do you cringe when you see she’s calling or avoid seeing her altogether?
If you said yes to any of these questions, there’s a big chance you have unresolved grief.
The good news is that there’s a solution.
Hey look, if you’re like most people, you simply never learned how to get complete and recovery from a broken heart. And although there are a lot of things we’ve been taught to change our feelings short term, and there are plenty of articles telling you what those things are, you must be willing to do the work if you truly want to recover from a loss.
That starts with being honest that you want something more for yourself; that you want freedom from pain, sadness, resentment, or whatever you are feeling.
Try talking to someone you trust. Tell the truth about yourself. Ask them not to judge, criticize, or analyze (then don’t judge, criticize, or analyze yourself either).
Get started with finding some new tools to help you process your pain and find a support network. Life continues to change every single day, so new things may come up. If that’s the case for you in regard to your relationship with your mom, then please consider diving back in. You already know the freedom you’ll get!
Is the work worth it? Well, imagine not feeling pain, anger, or sadness every single time you think about your mom. Wouldn’t that be freeing? You don’t have to live that way.
For information on a free Discovery Call to begin your personal journey through pain using The Grief Recovery Method® or for information on joining a free Self-Care for Serenity Workshop or go to www.walkingwithjoy.com or call 865-963-9221.